I think that it’s important for your boyfriend to talk to the kids about meeting you so they aren’t blindsided! Early on in our relationship, I brought up a very tough, but very necessary conversation.
It’s important to consider where they are at in the process of dealing with their parent’s divorce – are they struggling? We were lying on the bed, and I turned and looked at my now husband, and said I was specifically referring to marriage and kids.
This week, I had someone ask if I have any blog posts with advice for women dating a man with kids. Mostly because I didn’t start writing this blog until after my husband and I got married (and I subsequently found myself sitting on the bathroom floor, bawling my eyes out, thinking about what would happen if I got in the car and drove far, far away …. well kind of) If you’ve been following for a while, you know the story about that night on bathroom floor – it’s what inspired me to start this platform in the first place. Yes, I know that’s the obvious point, but honey I REALLY want you to think about what that means.
Anyways, I told this girl that while I didn’t have anything written, I’d be happy to whip something up for her, because THERE IS a lot that a woman in this position should consider. I know men with kids are pretty sexy – and it’s great to see those father figures doing their thing…
They have been through enough transitions and change in their lives, they don’t need someone coming into their life and then leaving shortly after. It’s something you talk about BEFORE you make that commitment.Sometimes those emotions creep in and make things more challenging to deal with.That and everyone else in your situation is also dealing with their own version of emotions, so things can get complicated and quickly.)To this day, I have not met a stepmom who feels like step-parenting has been easier than they thought!This is often the most frustrating thing for stepmoms.
It may be difficult for your boyfriend to find balance between you (his dating life) and them (his family life).[YOU MAY ALSO LIKE: 11 Things I Wish I Knew During My First Year As A Stepmom]While Society views stepdads as heroes who come in and “take on” a woman and her kids, stepmoms don’t get the same luxury.