Dating for hiv positive
Get your head around living with HIV, and then step out into the world of dating.
I’m so open about living with HIV that anyone who meets me usually knows already.
I often have to reframe the conversation around HIV.
By putting a face to it, I’m able to dispel lots of the stigmatising myths and beliefs.
Science has proven that people living with HIV who are on effective treatment cannot pass the virus onto sexual partners, regardless of whether they use a condom or not.
“HIV medication (antiretroviral treatment, or ART) works by reducing the amount of the virus in the blood to undetectable levels.
I think the survey results from the Terrence Higgins Trust’s Can’t Pass it On campaign that suggest 30 per cent of people would ‘swipe left’ on someone with HIV probably underrepresents what they would actually do in that situation.
This means the levels of HIV in my blood were so low I wouldn’t be able to transmit HIV to a sexual partner.
We met online after they read an article about me, and we started chatting.
He had done his homework and was pretty clued up before we started dating.
But not having ‘those chats’ didn’t work out too well for me.
My partner died very suddenly to an AIDS-defining infection in 2006.
So I was conscious I did have a viral load – I couldn’t get my head around dating someone who was HIV negative.