Dating depressed girl
See it as the beginning of a discussion you can resurface occasionally.
Depression often works like a game of telephone where no one wins. The person with depression would love to receive this kindness as it is, but their depression has set up a series of negative filters.
By the time the kind words reach the person with depression, the filters have mutated it into something negative such as an insult or affirmation of their negative beliefs.
Dating makes the situation even more difficult because there is more vulnerability.
If his response seems like an attack, resist the instinct to be defensive.
This is vital because attacking back can exacerbate his depression.
Show him he deserves love that will free him and make his life better rather than becoming another burden. If any man with depression had a choice, he would choose to be rid of it.
Also realize you are not guaranteed to encounter these issues when you date someone with depression. Whether you ask or deduce it after months of dating, there will be a point when your partner discloses they deal with depression.
“In this emotional space, dating becomes a chore,” said therapist Paul Hokemeyer.