Dating a man of lower status
In New York, every guy’s a Wall Street hustler, in DC they’re a consultant and in LA everyone’s an actor or a producer.
It’s not uncommon for guys to try to enhance their resume a little in the name of impressing women; they drop an extra hundred for the Hermés belt (with the big H buckle of course- what good is it if they don’t it’s Hermés?
I was at a speed dating event last night for the second time.
Just like the first time, it was full of smart, pretty, successful women in their thirties and forties and men of similar ages with manual labor jobs (and a few running their own manual labor businesses) but no men of equivalent professional or educational status except for one doctor.
The idea is that, when you boil everything down, women are attracted to high-value, high-status men; therefore, men who want to be more successful with women should be as high-value as possible.
This manifests itself in almost dating advice for men, from Pick-Up Artists, Red Pill-ers and … The cult of the Alpha Male, for example, is explicitly about how Alphas are socially (and/or physically) superior1 to Betas and thus are awarded with Don’t get me wrong: having social status and value is definitely attractive.
The most common definitions of high-value or high-status men is in the measure of their material wealth.
The complaint that women are hypergamous status-seekers is a common stereotype, especially in MRA/Red Pill/Manosphere circles; it’s often a tenant of evo-psych that women instinctively look to the best providers and thus get the screaming thigh-sweats as soon as they see a man flash a Patek Philippe watch or smell the beluga caviar on them.