Christian dating and physical boundaries
“The serpent said to the woman, ‘You will not surely die’” (Genesis 3:4). And he’s still telling the same lies in dating today.
Satan takes the wisdom and love in good boundaries and makes them look stingy, overprotective, and unnecessary. ” That’s where most of our conversations about boundaries begin.
If the honest answer is affection and intimacy, no number of boundaries can guard us completely.
We can put up all the fences we want, but the brokenness hides inside of us (and all our fences), and it waits to strike when we’re at our weakest and most vulnerable.
As we walk up to the edge of marriage, we draw close to something so much bigger than ourselves. It’s a vibrant picture of the love God has shown us in sending his Son for us, a love wider and deeper than the Pacific Ocean.
God designed love in marriage, like gallons and gallons of ocean, to show us how unsearchable love is for us. And because love within a covenant is so large, so intense, so captivating, he established a boundary, a shoreline.
Something happens deep inside of us when we walk up, let the water splash over our feet, and stare out over endless waves, extending far beyond our imagination can run.It’s estimated that the Pacific Ocean holds 187 deep. The Lord says to Job, “Who shut in the sea with doors when it burst out from the womb, when I made clouds its garment and thick darkness its swaddling band, and prescribed limits for it and set bars and doors, and said, ‘Thus far shall you come, and no farther, and here shall your proud waves be stayed’? And then he drew a line in the sand and told the waves they could go no farther. To show us that the waves are his, to tell us that he is sovereign, creative, and wise — and that he can be trusted.And we can safely play there in its wake at Newport Beach, wading carelessly into seemingly infinite power and mystery. “He established the fountains of the deep, when he assigned to the sea its limit, so that the waters might not transgress his command, when he marked out the foundations of the earth” (Proverbs –29). God does the same kind of work in marriage and dating.Part of enjoying the beach, at least in California, is enjoying the sunshine.
We have weather like theirs here, too, blue skies, burning sun, light breeze — at least for two or three weeks every year.What are we really after in dating (or in all of life)?